Social Insanity

The root of all unattractiveness is Neediness; the reason for all attractiveness is non-Neediness. Neediness essentially means placing a higher priority on what other thinks of you than what you think of yourself – Mark Manson Disclaimer: The purpose of the catharsis is to find what is right instead of focusing on who is right. I believe we should act like scientists, which are committed to the 'pursuit of truth', even if it ends up proving ourselves wrong.  Neediness can manifest in all forms and domains of human expression and relations e.g., physical, psychological, to become/be someone, situations to be your way, discontentment and discomfort of what is and wanting it to be something else. Genenrally, humans have an amazing sensor for picking up neediness and distancing themselves from this passive manipulation and unattractive behaviour - Yoo-hoo, stalker alert! We all get needy from time to time. An overly independent person will see someone who has a more balanced app...

Disclaimer: The purpose of the catharsis is to find what is right instead of focusing on who is right. I believe we should act like scientists, which are committed to the 'pursuit of truth', even if it ends up proving ourselves wrong. Thoughts of a lifelong learner, proponent of leadership, well-being and mindfulness. Being human, I have tried my best to limit my confirmation and desirability bias in collating and summing up the post above - which makes us ignorant of our own ignorance.  Happiness: True happiness is finding something more important than your own happiness. Happiness is not an emotion in itself, but rather it is the lack of any other emotion such as insufficiency, fear, sadness, discontentment and/or need to be someone or something. In life there is two ways to have enough, one is to chase constantly more and more, the other way is to develop a capacity to be happy with less. "The secret of happiness, you see, is not found in seeking more, but in d...

" I have realised that people who quickly or constantly judge, label, compare, analyse – have a self-acceptance issue, because they are insecure about their appearance/money/status/abilities/relationships. Thence, it has nothing to do with the ‘subject’ that is being judged, it is merely a coping mechanism to deal with their insecurity.  If they suffer from unstable self-esteem, they become jaded and jealousy/self-victimisation kicks in. Even better, if they are exploitative, they start planning how they can acquire the same thing they’re insecure about by using this interaction/individual. This is called a scarcity mindset, that being happy for others will lessen yours – a shit value, that life is one big gymnasium, you shove someone in a locker first or someone will shove you.  This is the peril of modern life i.e., living in your head all the time: the involuntary thought process that you realise have the power to stop. We should remind ourselves frequently, we only play...

Disclaimer (a standard placeholder in my posts now) : I swear this is not a sadistic post to demonise the most precious thing in life. So please don't hang me for the Disney/Rom-com fetishes, seriously this is a post to celebrate love – like the actual one which gives life meaning, worth living for and the one which is done without conditions and expectations.  Also, all the fallacies, patterns are gender neutral, they are completely interchangeable for men/women. I know despite different physiological constructs, both genders, bleed red, have two ears and eyes and more importantly are vain, self-centred, seek attention, addicted to admiration, self-serving, always dissatisfied with what they have and constantly obsess & idealise what they don’t have, look to manipulate and get manipulated for whatever they have surrender their self-worth to – as sadly they are both HUMANS and suffer from the shortcomings of being one!  P.S. Apologies in advance for free hand examp...

We all want to be the CEO, President, MVP, Entrepreneurs aka contemporary Socially affluent title of choice. I think we forget that we are the CEO of our own life - the summation of our limited existence, and shouldn't overly concern ourselves worry about becoming or not becoming CEO, famous, global, earth shaker etc etc too much. Because as humans we subconsciously link our self esteem to these things, meaning until the day that external subjective uncontrollable (ESU) THING happens, we will be not enough and consequently we will judge ourselves and be unhappy everyday. Despite enough data points and wisdom around us which confirms that the destination is never worth the time and strain it takes of this (external) journey. The journey is the dream because otherwise you go through life as a dead person to live that 3-5 weeks of high after accomplishing the subjective goal. Being human we know that we are complex, self serving, vain, seek validation, have a fetish of playing God (na...

Thought of the day - The smarter you are, the easier it is to come up with bullshit to avoid what makes you uncomfortable. Some of that is due to their ability to do mental gymnastics and get themselves out of any uncomfortable argument. Smartest people often struggle the most to resolve their emotional issues because they're busy outsmarting themselves rather than fixing the fucking issues - Mark Manson  P.S. The fault in our stars, beware if you're thinking you're outsmarting others, be careful that you're not only outsmarting yourself!  Solution: Aristotle wrote, "It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it." Being able to look at & evaluate different values without necessarily adopting them is perhaps the central skill required in changing one's own life in a meaningful way.

Note: This article is largely based on excerpt from Everything is F*cked by Mark Manson. The catharsis builds on the philosophical notion of nature of Values. READ more: For application and framework to finding out your personalised Values. Past a certain point, maturity has nothing to do with age. There are plenty of grown-ass children in the world. And there are a lot of aging adolescents. Hell, there are even some young adults out there. What matters are a person’s intentions.  The difference between a child, an adolescent, and an adult is not how old they are or what they do, but WHY they do something Wait I have a more basic question: How are values made, why do religions and cults share them, is it a spiritual thing or like a school thing?  Answer:  The process of forming values is complex and influenced by various factors. Life experiences play a significant role in shaping our values. Emotions, such as pleasure and pain, are generated through these experiences and...