Social Insanity

Disclaimer (a standard placeholder in my posts now) : I swear this is not a sadistic post to demonise the most precious thing in life. So please don't hang me for the Disney/Rom-com fetishes, seriously this is a post to celebrate love – like the actual one which gives life meaning, worth living for and the one which is done without conditions and expectations.  Also, all the fallacies, patterns are gender neutral, they are completely interchangeable for men/women. I know despite different physiological constructs, both genders, bleed red, have two ears and eyes and more importantly are vain, self-centred, seek attention, addicted to admiration, self-serving, always dissatisfied with what they have and constantly obsess & idealise what they don’t have, look to manipulate and get manipulated for whatever they have surrender their self-worth to – as sadly they are both HUMANS and suffer from the shortcomings of being one!  P.S. Apologies in advance for free hand examp...

We all want to be the CEO, President, MVP, Entrepreneurs aka contemporary Socially affluent title of choice. I think we forget that we are the CEO of our own life - the summation of our limited existence, and shouldn't overly concern ourselves worry about becoming or not becoming CEO, famous, global, earth shaker etc etc too much. Because as humans we subconsciously link our self esteem to these things, meaning until the day that external subjective uncontrollable (ESU) THING happens, we will be not enough and consequently we will judge ourselves and be unhappy everyday. Despite enough data points and wisdom around us which confirms that the destination is never worth the time and strain it takes of this (external) journey. The journey is the dream because otherwise you go through life as a dead person to live that 3-5 weeks of high after accomplishing the subjective goal. Being human we know that we are complex, self serving, vain, seek validation, have a fetish of playing God (na...

Self-worth Is Contextual.  High and low self-worth appear different on the surface, but they are two sides of the same counterfeit coin. Because whether you feel as though you're better than the rest of the world or worse than the rest of the world, the same thing is true: you're imagining yourself as something special, something separate from the world. A person who believes he deserves special treatment because of how great he is isn't so different from someone who believes she deserves special treatment because of how shitty she is. Both are narcissistic. Both think they're special. Both think the world should make exceptions and cater to their values and feelings over others'. Narcissists will oscillate between feelings of superiority and inferiority. Either everyone loves them or everyone hates them. EVERYTHING IS AMAZING, or EVERYTHING IS FUCKED.  Mostly, narcissists are unbearable to be around. They make everything about them and demand that people around the...

I was discussing the ironies of human condition and related perils with my inner circle (conveniently). One of friends quoted a saying in Urdu, which loosely translates into "Wisdom is in limited supply and sacred generally, however, wise people are generally unsafe and probably endangered in an ‘ignorant’ surrounding" . We deliberated this for a while and concluded that – One of many subtle incivilities of our times is that: the rare bulb’s get hanged by the crowd of candles . N.B., We are going to push this BULB and CANDLE metaphor to the next level – so strap in your cord tightly! CANDLES are afraid of the light of the BULB – they do not know ‘WHY’ it shines so bright or powered differently or does not have to be sparked by a matchstick and has different thinking/beliefs to us. He is not enticed by the same thing, he is not afraid to shine alone and even if we ostracise him, he keeps shinning. Candles can easily join heads and continue the same bandwagon/following the floc...

Image: My Spirit Animal @ Mark Manson People who always need to be right tend to have fragile egos. When they feel as if their self-image has been threatened, they want to make themselves look bigger or smarter, so they blame others. It’s a coping mechanism to deal with insecurity . Recognising and admitting our insecurity and personal change are up there in the hyper difficulty cadence in human existence - you have to detach your embedded ego, pride, need to feel important and self-regard from the equation to heal yourself!!