Social Insanity

The root of all unattractiveness is Neediness; the reason for all attractiveness is non-Neediness. Neediness essentially means placing a higher priority on what other thinks of you than what you think of yourself – Mark Manson Disclaimer: The purpose of the catharsis is to find what is right instead of focusing on who is right. I believe we should act like scientists, which are committed to the 'pursuit of truth', even if it ends up proving ourselves wrong.  Neediness can manifest in all forms and domains of human expression and relations e.g., physical, psychological, to become/be someone, situations to be your way, discontentment and discomfort of what is and wanting it to be something else. Genenrally, humans have an amazing sensor for picking up neediness and distancing themselves from this passive manipulation and unattractive behaviour - Yoo-hoo, stalker alert! We all get needy from time to time. An overly independent person will see someone who has a more balanced app...

Disclaimer: The purpose of the catharsis is to find what is right instead of focusing on who is right. I believe we should act like scientists, which are committed to the 'pursuit of truth', even if it ends up proving ourselves wrong. Thoughts of a lifelong learner, proponent of leadership, well-being and mindfulness. Being human, I have tried my best to limit my confirmation and desirability bias in collating and summing up the post above - which makes us ignorant of our own ignorance.  Happiness: True happiness is finding something more important than your own happiness. Happiness is not an emotion in itself, but rather it is the lack of any other emotion such as insufficiency, fear, sadness, discontentment and/or need to be someone or something. In life there is two ways to have enough, one is to chase constantly more and more, the other way is to develop a capacity to be happy with less. "The secret of happiness, you see, is not found in seeking more, but in d...

" I have realised that people who quickly or constantly judge, label, compare, analyse – have a self-acceptance issue, because they are insecure about their appearance/money/status/abilities/relationships. Thence, it has nothing to do with the ‘subject’ that is being judged, it is merely a coping mechanism to deal with their insecurity.  If they suffer from unstable self-esteem, they become jaded and jealousy/self-victimisation kicks in. Even better, if they are exploitative, they start planning how they can acquire the same thing they’re insecure about by using this interaction/individual. This is called a scarcity mindset, that being happy for others will lessen yours – a shit value, that life is one big gymnasium, you shove someone in a locker first or someone will shove you.  This is the peril of modern life i.e., living in your head all the time: the involuntary thought process that you realise have the power to stop. We should remind ourselves frequently, we only play...

Disclaimer (a standard placeholder in my posts now) : I swear this is not a sadistic post to demonise the most precious thing in life. So please don't hang me for the Disney/Rom-com fetishes, seriously this is a post to celebrate love – like the actual one which gives life meaning, worth living for and the one which is done without conditions and expectations.  Also, all the fallacies, patterns are gender neutral, they are completely interchangeable for men/women. I know despite different physiological constructs, both genders, bleed red, have two ears and eyes and more importantly are vain, self-centred, seek attention, addicted to admiration, self-serving, always dissatisfied with what they have and constantly obsess & idealise what they don’t have, look to manipulate and get manipulated for whatever they have surrender their self-worth to – as sadly they are both HUMANS and suffer from the shortcomings of being one!  P.S. Apologies in advance for free hand examp...