Social Insanity

Values: The unique ' Thermostat/Equilibrium/Zen ' around how one goes about spending their 'limited time' on the planet! - عدنان We all need to know OUR core VALUES in life? The same way everyone has a personality irrespective of their awareness of it. Even if you've never thought about it or listed your values - they are ALWAYS shinning through HOW you spend your LIFE in light of personal conditioning, experiences, narratives and decisions etc etc. The funny thing about values is, that they are NOT what we preach (seldom do)/wish/want them to be: On the contrary, they demonstrate the best & worst thing about us (more than often productive/dark side of the same coin). For example, you  VALUE personal development  therefore you are  READING this article . However, to do so, your are  GIVING UP on watching TV, swiping TINDER/BUMBLE  to do this activity. Similarly, you  DEVELOP your PASSIVE INCOME after work/go to gym /take care of your grandmother...

I feel EXPECTING (implicitly/explicitly) PEOPLE TO READ YOUR MIND is a very parochial form of tyranny, it blames people for something they have no control over in the name of acceptance/validation or belonging. It's ironic that the people who demand this are either hyper insecure skilled individuals who get their feeling of importance by popularity and oppression OR polarised end of the spectrum who don't have their shit together but believe it's a mark of connection, romance and love. It's funny both of them usually have to remind themselves of things i.e. do this, do that, you got this, you're in control, you're special, you're strong, you know where the keys are, I need to mow the lawn, positive affirmations to self love quotes, self assurances in rejection - but lack the humility to give the same courtesy to other humans, it's JUST ANOTHER HIGH at the expense of OTHERS - عدنان Image(s): Unsplash

A better approach -  عدنان's Six (6) Steps : This post is part of the broader article - Survival Guide to Modern Dating: Swiping Toxic Attachments, Manipulation, Fetishes and Matching Self-Discovery - The Better Way! Note to reader: I can't be the ONLY one who is stuck in the matrix/feedback loop of endless bad dating/unfulfilling relationships. There has to be a better reality that must be created through meaningful change of values, emotions, narratives, intentional action, suffering, growth, spirituality, nurturing and compassion that allows us to get the LOVE and ACCEPTANCE we all yearn in our lives.   There is an equation to work out your taxes, superannuation, and car payments – there is no equation for a good, meaningful, and thriving relationships. Well, it’s complicated – kind of, the way most meaningful things in life generally are – however, I truly believe that world that we experience is manifested by the way we live our life. As a mature, functional,...