Social Insanity

Note to reader: All I ask is that you entertain this post without accepting it, validate it, supplement it with your learnings & life experience, grow from it and then uncover your own myth. Apologies in advance for the modern day slangs and expletives! There are many people that you will love, they are not necessarily the same people that you will make a life with – Are you looking for a LOVE story or a LIFE story? Esther Perel Sleeping in the same bed, doesn't make you close to someone. Living in the same house doesn't make you close to someone. The only thing which makes you close is - when you feel you can be open, when you feel seen and heard and understood - Jay Shetty Now, since I have you hooked on these poignant quotes and work of these competent, wise, and knowledgeable individuals – I wanted to relay the epiphany  –  that Esther Perel, Matthew Hussey, and Jay Shetty can relay the best sage advice and give you the map to find cupid’s silver arrow for most ama...

I came across this beautiful piece by Neil Strauss (American Author - The Truth) which coincided with a personal mind-boggling meta-analysis tracing facets of childhood experiences (our dear exclusive personal conditioning) that feeds into our current personality, anti-fragility and level of general consciousness evolution.  This is an attempt to look back at the buttons (survivalist approaches and defence mechanisms) that I was installed with at the start of my life: 1.   Preach virtues of your own tribe and find self-worth in prosecuting the vices of others. 2.   Read a book that's your gospel and make no effort to understand/incorporate it in your life. Mostly use it to run a cognitive dissonance of toxic moral righteousness on others and use it for manipulation for self-interest.   3.   Blind loyalty to your tribe is respect/loyalty/affection instead of being a boundary violation by compromising your self-worth.   4.   Unstable self-esteem/toxic se...

Image: Pinterest There is a general stigma around seeking help for complex matters such as mental health and/or counselling around general stress levels, work, life and relationships. It's the classical human bias, being ignorant of our own ignorance - not realising that someone is out there an readily available: to unclutter your freighted life, not as an alchemist but an independent, competent and true supporter. This is how I think about it:- You're going about your busy life and your car breaks down. Will you give up your day job to fix your broken car by DIY/YouTube channel? No, you go to a mechanic who has skills, time, competence and an economic function to help you get on with your journey. OR do you keep on pushing the broken car, just because you're in denial? Similarly, let's say you have your life's hard earned savings stored in a bank. Do you give up your day job, to guard that bank because you have trust issues or get anxiety about financial matter...

The root of all unattractiveness is Neediness; the reason for all attractiveness is non-Neediness. Neediness essentially means placing a higher priority on what other thinks of you than what you think of yourself – Mark Manson Disclaimer: The purpose of the catharsis is to find what is right instead of focusing on who is right. I believe we should act like scientists, which are committed to the 'pursuit of truth', even if it ends up proving ourselves wrong.  Neediness can manifest in all forms and domains of human expression and relations e.g., physical, psychological, to become/be someone, situations to be your way, discontentment and discomfort of what is and wanting it to be something else. Genenrally, humans have an amazing sensor for picking up neediness and distancing themselves from this passive manipulation and unattractive behaviour - Yoo-hoo, stalker alert! We all get needy from time to time. An overly independent person will see someone who has a more balanced app...

Disclaimer: The purpose of the catharsis is to find what is right instead of focusing on who is right. I believe we should act like scientists, which are committed to the 'pursuit of truth', even if it ends up proving ourselves wrong. Thoughts of a lifelong learner, proponent of leadership, well-being and mindfulness. Being human, I have tried my best to limit my confirmation and desirability bias in collating and summing up the post above - which makes us ignorant of our own ignorance.  Happiness: True happiness is finding something more important than your own happiness. Happiness is not an emotion in itself, but rather it is the lack of any other emotion such as insufficiency, fear, sadness, discontentment and/or need to be someone or something. In life there is two ways to have enough, one is to chase constantly more and more, the other way is to develop a capacity to be happy with less. "The secret of happiness, you see, is not found in seeking more, but in d...