Social Insanity

I came across this beautiful piece by Neil Strauss (American Author - The Truth) which coincided with a personal mind-boggling meta-analysis tracing facets of childhood experiences (our dear exclusive personal conditioning) that feeds into our current personality, anti-fragility and level of general consciousness evolution.  This is an attempt to look back at the buttons (survivalist approaches and defence mechanisms) that I was installed with at the start of my life: 1.   Preach virtues of your own tribe and find self-worth in prosecuting the vices of others. 2.   Read a book that's your gospel and make no effort to understand/incorporate it in your life. Mostly use it to run a cognitive dissonance of toxic moral righteousness on others and use it for manipulation for self-interest.   3.   Blind loyalty to your tribe is respect/loyalty/affection instead of being a boundary violation by compromising your self-worth.   4.   Unstable self-esteem/toxic se...

Image: Pinterest There is a general stigma around seeking help for complex matters such as mental health and/or counselling around general stress levels, work, life and relationships. It's the classical human bias, being ignorant of our own ignorance - not realising that someone is out there an readily available: to unclutter your freighted life, not as an alchemist but an independent, competent and true supporter. This is how I think about it:- You're going about your busy life and your car breaks down. Will you give up your day job to fix your broken car by DIY/YouTube channel? No, you go to a mechanic who has skills, time, competence and an economic function to help you get on with your journey. OR do you keep on pushing the broken car, just because you're in denial? Similarly, let's say you have your life's hard earned savings stored in a bank. Do you give up your day job, to guard that bank because you have trust issues or get anxiety about financial matter...

The root of all unattractiveness is Neediness; the reason for all attractiveness is non-Neediness. Neediness essentially means placing a higher priority on what other thinks of you than what you think of yourself – Mark Manson Disclaimer: The purpose of the catharsis is to find what is right instead of focusing on who is right. I believe we should act like scientists, which are committed to the 'pursuit of truth', even if it ends up proving ourselves wrong.  Neediness can manifest in all forms and domains of human expression and relations e.g., physical, psychological, to become/be someone, situations to be your way, discontentment and discomfort of what is and wanting it to be something else. Genenrally, humans have an amazing sensor for picking up neediness and distancing themselves from this passive manipulation and unattractive behaviour - Yoo-hoo, stalker alert! We all get needy from time to time. An overly independent person will see someone who has a more balanced app...

Disclaimer: The purpose of the catharsis is to find what is right instead of focusing on who is right. I believe we should act like scientists, which are committed to the 'pursuit of truth', even if it ends up proving ourselves wrong. Thoughts of a lifelong learner, proponent of leadership, well-being and mindfulness. Being human, I have tried my best to limit my confirmation and desirability bias in collating and summing up the post above - which makes us ignorant of our own ignorance.  Happiness: True happiness is finding something more important than your own happiness. Happiness is not an emotion in itself, but rather it is the lack of any other emotion such as insufficiency, fear, sadness, discontentment and/or need to be someone or something. In life there is two ways to have enough, one is to chase constantly more and more, the other way is to develop a capacity to be happy with less. "The secret of happiness, you see, is not found in seeking more, but in d...

" I have realised that people who quickly or constantly judge, label, compare, analyse – have a self-acceptance issue, because they are insecure about their appearance/money/status/abilities/relationships. Thence, it has nothing to do with the ‘subject’ that is being judged, it is merely a coping mechanism to deal with their insecurity.  If they suffer from unstable self-esteem, they become jaded and jealousy/self-victimisation kicks in. Even better, if they are exploitative, they start planning how they can acquire the same thing they’re insecure about by using this interaction/individual. This is called a scarcity mindset, that being happy for others will lessen yours – a shit value, that life is one big gymnasium, you shove someone in a locker first or someone will shove you.  This is the peril of modern life i.e., living in your head all the time: the involuntary thought process that you realise have the power to stop. We should remind ourselves frequently, we only play...

Disclaimer (a standard placeholder in my posts now) : I swear this is not a sadistic post to demonise the most precious thing in life. So please don't hang me for the Disney/Rom-com fetishes, seriously this is a post to celebrate love – like the actual one which gives life meaning, worth living for and the one which is done without conditions and expectations.  Also, all the fallacies, patterns are gender neutral, they are completely interchangeable for men/women. I know despite different physiological constructs, both genders, bleed red, have two ears and eyes and more importantly are vain, self-centred, seek attention, addicted to admiration, self-serving, always dissatisfied with what they have and constantly obsess & idealise what they don’t have, look to manipulate and get manipulated for whatever they have surrender their self-worth to – as sadly they are both HUMANS and suffer from the shortcomings of being one!  P.S. Apologies in advance for free hand examp...