Social Insanity

We all want to be the CEO, President, MVP, Entrepreneurs aka contemporary Socially affluent title of choice. I think we forget that we are the CEO of our own life - the summation of our limited existence, and shouldn't overly concern ourselves worry about becoming or not becoming CEO, famous, global, earth shaker etc etc too much. Because as humans we subconsciously link our self esteem to these things, meaning until the day that external subjective uncontrollable (ESU) THING happens, we will be not enough and consequently we will judge ourselves and be unhappy everyday. Despite enough data points and wisdom around us which confirms that the destination is never worth the time and strain it takes of this (external) journey. The journey is the dream because otherwise you go through life as a dead person to live that 3-5 weeks of high after accomplishing the subjective goal. Being human we know that we are complex, self serving, vain, seek validation, have a fetish of playing God (na...

Thought of the day - The smarter you are, the easier it is to come up with bullshit to avoid what makes you uncomfortable. Some of that is due to their ability to do mental gymnastics and get themselves out of any uncomfortable argument. Smartest people often struggle the most to resolve their emotional issues because they're busy outsmarting themselves rather than fixing the fucking issues - Mark Manson  P.S. The fault in our stars, beware if you're thinking you're outsmarting others, be careful that you're not only outsmarting yourself!  Solution: Aristotle wrote, "It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it." Being able to look at & evaluate different values without necessarily adopting them is perhaps the central skill required in changing one's own life in a meaningful way.

Note: This article is largely based on excerpt from Everything is F*cked by Mark Manson. The catharsis builds on the philosophical notion of nature of Values. READ more: For application and framework to finding out your personalised Values. Past a certain point, maturity has nothing to do with age. There are plenty of grown-ass children in the world. And there are a lot of aging adolescents. Hell, there are even some young adults out there. What matters are a person’s intentions.  The difference between a child, an adolescent, and an adult is not how old they are or what they do, but WHY they do something Wait I have a more basic question: How are values made, why do religions and cults share them, is it a spiritual thing or like a school thing?  Answer:  The process of forming values is complex and influenced by various factors. Life experiences play a significant role in shaping our values. Emotions, such as pleasure and pain, are generated through these experiences and...

Self-worth Is Contextual.  High and low self-worth appear different on the surface, but they are two sides of the same counterfeit coin. Because whether you feel as though you're better than the rest of the world or worse than the rest of the world, the same thing is true: you're imagining yourself as something special, something separate from the world. A person who believes he deserves special treatment because of how great he is isn't so different from someone who believes she deserves special treatment because of how shitty she is. Both are narcissistic. Both think they're special. Both think the world should make exceptions and cater to their values and feelings over others'. Narcissists will oscillate between feelings of superiority and inferiority. Either everyone loves them or everyone hates them. EVERYTHING IS AMAZING, or EVERYTHING IS FUCKED.  Mostly, narcissists are unbearable to be around. They make everything about them and demand that people around the...

I was discussing the ironies of human condition and related perils with my inner circle (conveniently). One of friends quoted a saying in Urdu, which loosely translates into "Wisdom is in limited supply and sacred generally, however, wise people are generally unsafe and probably endangered in an ‘ignorant’ surrounding" . We deliberated this for a while and concluded that – One of many subtle incivilities of our times is that: the rare bulb’s get hanged by the crowd of candles . N.B., We are going to push this BULB and CANDLE metaphor to the next level – so strap in your cord tightly! CANDLES are afraid of the light of the BULB – they do not know ‘WHY’ it shines so bright or powered differently or does not have to be sparked by a matchstick and has different thinking/beliefs to us. He is not enticed by the same thing, he is not afraid to shine alone and even if we ostracise him, he keeps shinning. Candles can easily join heads and continue the same bandwagon/following the floc...

Disclaimer: The purpose of this post is not to scorn or ostracise personality disorders. It is to develop a methodical understanding of presently available memoranda so we can cure ourselves from ourselves; through self-awareness, self-reflection and deep-rooted sense of finding something more important than ourselves! Also, this article is about people, irrespective of gender and nature of relationship (applicable for all personal dealings). Why write this article – well the people who have personality disorders, they feel pretty great but it's the ones who are around them, chose to love them, born with them or be with them, they're usually ‘miserable’. We all know that couple – who are picture perfect, say the right things, do the right things and take pictures at the right time etc etc – to later find out they had a topsy turvy relationship and it was all a façade, mere front with nothing tangible in it. A couple of months and sometimes even years later, it goes down in t...

It's one of those lessons, AFTER THE FACT EPIPHANY, like falling down the stairs, getting caught in a out of control rip while surfing, skinned and chafed knees after downhill skating, being around people who don't share same values/ethics/purpose who appear to be charming, yet are covertly hostile and domineering, seeing their victim as merely an instrument to be used in all respects i.e. parent, child, sister/brother, boss, employee and/or husband/wife. These are troubled individuals who are emotionally dysfunctional and no cure has been discovered. However, the new order/world reward these people - due to their ability to abuse/domineer others. We live in a materialistic and consumerist world, the guy who manipulates more and more people is considered a GOOD/RIGHT/EFFECTIVE boss, the women who uses flirting and after hours drinks for PROMOTION/RECOGNITION/PEOPLE PLEASING/VALIDATION is considered a smart professional. There's a saying narcissist's have big beach house...

I feel it's the right to time to discuss, acknowledge and address the subset of colour based superiority. Unlike racism this is perpetuated by coloured or minorities themselves. The same moral philosophy, religious doctrine applies to this WRONG existing belief that's been ingrained into the society. I've grown up with men/women who has unfathomably deluded entitlement, sense of superiority and perhaps belief that they have right to special treatment than everyone who is not as fair as them or down the 'Minority Colour Spectrum'. This inherent doll test is ingrained into the media as well. See how the dark brown people are background dancers/support in the movies, isn't that equal to fair washing (white washing) as we love to point out in Hollywood. What about diseases which ruin you mentally, spiritually and in instances physically. Not to mention, this also raises an entitled generation who perpetuate this crazy phenomenon and instill the same thing in their n...